The Peace & Power of a Positive Perspective


Full measure…

Our favorite, Unknown Sage once said,

Life can be measured by the number of moments that take your breath away.

Based on that metric, I enjoy a very, full-measured life.  Today is my 41st wedding anniversary.   And I met my high school sweetheart when we were both in the 7th grade.  She still takes my breath away.  Happy anniversary, Debbie!

Over the years, I have occasionally rocked the foundation of our comfort zone – failed investments; family feuds; job changes; you know the usual stuff.  There have been happy surprises, too – dream vacations; company promotions; flowers with a nice card – just ‘cause.

She’s half Irish; and I know I have provided her many opportunities to invoke that Irish Blessing:

May you never forget what is worth remembering, or remember what is worth forgetting.

So permit me to pause from the weekly drum beat of business, finance, sales, and the pursuit of career fulfillment and devote a few thoughts toward never forgetting what is worth remembering, OK?

Relationships – whether formal or informal; between husbands and wives; among parents and their children; bonds between brothers and sisters; shared with colleagues; or with our BFF’s; no matter.  Let’s pause for a moment to focus on those special people we know that have taken our breath away.  Yep, it’s time to give them a call (no voicemails please); write them a letter (texts don’t count – they deserve the ink!); and let’s give out plenty of hugs – just ‘cause.

Relationships – family, friends, colleagues.  The currency of a fulfilling, meaningful life, don’t you think?  And like any other “bank account”, there are deposits and withdrawals that relationships have on the balance of our lives.  I have benefited often from the deposits those relationships that surround me have made.  And in so doing, each of these special people have enriched my life.

It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of our careers.  Often our jobs hold a powerful grasp over our minds, bodies, and sometimes even our souls.  Our daily routine captures us.  We have good intentions; we just seem to run out of time or run short of energy, and we don’t get to those special people before bedtime.  We wake early the next morning and repeat the pattern.  Before you know it, a lot of time has passed between meaningful interactions with our loved ones.

Now don’t get me wrong – I believe that being successful is very important to those that have emotionally invested in us.  It’s very important to them to see us succeed.  We’re one of their sources of pride and joy.  They don’t complain often (if at all).  They’ll just silently, wish us well and wait for us to focus on them once again someday.  And when we do – it warms their heart!

So today I’m focused on my wife of 41 years – staying married to me, she has certainly earned it!  And I’m thankful for the good fortune to have her, my family, my friends, and my business colleagues in my life – they have made me a rich man.  And I salute those of you who enjoy long-lasting, loving marriages, too.  Perhaps we would agree in Harold Nicholson’s revelation:

The great secret of successful marriage is to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters.

Let’s go buy some flowers and a nice greeting card for our wife, or husband, significant other, or BFF – just ‘cause.


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  1. Nancy Burianek
    Mar 21, 2014

    Congratulations on those 41 years! You and Debbie are wonderful friends and we always enjoy the times we share! Your post this week was another good reminder and it goes along with the one I had posted on Monday. Thanks for sharing!!

    • Gary
      Mar 22, 2014

      Thanks Nancy! Yes, your family enriches ours! Thx, GAP

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