The Peace & Power of a Positive Perspective


Should I stay?

A few weeks ago I was chatting with a colleague; he was wondering if changing to a different sales team would be better for him than the team he has been on for the past few years.  He felt he had not been particularly successful, or appreciated.  Would going be better than staying?

Fast forward to yesterday.  I was chatting with a client of mine; he was wondering if there might be a better position for him at another firm vs. the firm he had joined 6 months ago.  He is worried whether he will be able to succeed in his role.  Would going be better than staying?

Ah yes – that all-too-familiar question.  A common conundrum many of us have wondered about, true?

Should I stay in my current role at my current company; or should I pursue a better opportunity (aka “greener pastures”)?

Been there, done that – many times.  In fact, I wrote about the outcome of my last pursuit of greener pastures ( ).  Turned out my greener pastures were pretty brown!

So, how do we know when we should stay in our current role or pursue a new opportunity somewhere else?  What criteria do we use to weigh the pros and cons of making that move?  How can we be sure the next pasture will be greener?  The thing is – once we decide to go; the option to stay is gone.

Perhaps the cause of our concern should be carefully evaluated.  Are we frustrated in our job; with our boss?  Are we feeling unfulfilled?  Are we in over our heads?  Or are we bored because we are way over-qualified for the position?  Could it simply be fear?  A plethora of possibilities can cause provocation to pull out, yes?

Of course, we should be cautious when seeking the advice of another.  Their perspective about us is often based on their perspective of their own circumstance.  And when we seek another’s input are we looking for objective advice; confirmation of our decision; or just some guy’s opinion?  Another slippery slope for sure:

Do not condemn the judgment of another because it differs from your own.  You may both be wrong.


Adversity can actually be a positive influence on our circumstance.  Just changing from one bad situation does not guarantee our next situation will be any better (aka “browner pastures”).  Sometimes the best option is to stay – and make a difference.  I might go as far as to suggest that if you want quality and satisfaction in your job – invest the time and energy you would expend going to stay and create that quality and job satisfaction for yourself.


Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents, which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.


Will and conflict also may play a role in our future job fulfillment:

Will applied to any conflict creates energy.

Conflict without Will creates frustration.

Conflict with Will creates resolution.

Michael E. Gerber

Yes, the role we are in might be difficult.  So difficult we think going might be our only option.  But if we stop a moment and really think about it; staying can also be a very viable choice, too.  Especially when it is our will to have a fulfilling job, in spite of conflict and adversity, yes?

Under the “do as I say, not as I do” category, if at all possible:  I recommend trying to stay – and make a difference!


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One Comment

  1. Nancy Burianek
    Apr 03, 2014

    I like this. You’ve made so many right on points. The key, as you said, is why is it someone is wanting to leave? I read a great article in Success magazine last fall that related to the Gen Y group. The point was that unless they feel appreciated from DAY 1, they will start looking for another job within 6 months. Interesting. Yes, there are extenuating circumstances but how often is the “unrest” really our own personal issues but we blame other people, etc? Thought provoking once again, Gary. Thanks!!

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